Not only are you dealing with the stress of a divorce proceeding, but also you are trying to find consistency in your changing new life. Your ex moving in with a new significant other is never easy, especially if it occurs before you are even divorced. You may feel hurt, betrayed, or angry. These feelings are normal, even if you don’t want to resume your relationship . Keep in mind what your attorney has (or should have) advised you: don’t become romantically involved while you’re still married. However, your spouse may not have received or heeded the same advice.
The fact that your spouse is doing it is not permission for you to move in with a new significant other. There could be consequences for you. For example, the court may not view your actions in a favorable light. Additionally, it may open you to claims of alienation of affection or criminal conversation. Your attorney can further explain these issues, as well as discuss using them against your ex spouse if the situation warrants.
It may hurt now, but give it time and your life will get back on track. In the meantime, a few tips can help make it a bit easier. Don’t think of your marriage as a waste. You may have regrets, but it helped you get to where you are today and where you will be in the future. Also, don’t look at your ex through rose-tinted glasses. It is important to remember the good and bad times to realize you ended it for a reason. Rather than bolster your ex in your mind, get to know yourself. You have undoubtedly changed in the time since before your marriage, appreciate this new you..
Focus on getting through one day at a time. Nothing will take the pain away completely, but you can cope and get through it.