Divorce is usually an extremely emotional time. This stress can lead to depression and anxiety. However, things can get even more complicated when you are dealing with the depression and anxiety of your spouse. What should you do if your spouse becomes so depressed that he or she threatens you or threatens self-harm?

If you are being threatened or physically harmed, get to safety. Call the police and remain in a safe location if you can. Once you are safe and the authorities are notified, let your attorney know. Your attorney can help you utilize legal resources such as a restraining order.

If your ex-spouse is threatening himself or herself, there are several ways to help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a resource available to give you life-saving advice. Threats and attempts of self-harm are always serious, and should be treated seriously even if you believe your spouse would not follow through. Over-reaction is preferable to under-reaction.

In these situations, listen to your spouse and try to understand what has put him or her in crisis mode. Get help right away, even if you have to get someone else to call for help so you can stay with your ex. As with all incidents that arise during your divorce, keep your lawyer informed of what has happened. The circumstances and your involvement could affect your case, especially if children are involved.

Phone Numbers to Know:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-(800) 273-8255
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-(800) 799-7233